by Jaclyn Ianetti
“We understand what you feel”
The sounds of wedding bells are just around the corner…and that’s all your loved ones seem to hear. But you?- you hear something a bit more heavy than the lighthearted jingle everybody else seems to be enthralled in. What is it exactly that is preventing you from enjoying these enchanting vibes? PRESSURE!
A time-out from the rainbows and beautiful butterflies that are fluttering around your wedding daze, the pressures a bride feels to look her best on the day of the wedding is a real emotion that is often overlooked. The bridal industry puts a ton of pressure on brides to look their best on their wedding day. This extreme pressure is a universal feeling that ALL brides can identify with. You are filled with excitement for the day of your wedding to finally arrive, yet you also cannot wait for it to be over so that you are relieved from all of the pressure that leads up to this day! The anticipation of the entire journey to your wedding day can create a subconscious feeling to rush the process.
Once the day is here, the pressure to look your best is off, right? But you don’t want to miss something valuable in the journey along the way. It is a journey towards love. And love should never be rushed. Let the famous quote of “Love is patient, love is kind” replay in your head every time you find yourself secretly wishing for the day to just come already. Why do you want the day to come so quickly? Perhaps all of the pressure is the main culprit behind those feelings, which are sometimes subliminal and other times, thought out. Be conscious of your emotions, and stay aware to how you are feeling. As you do with love, be patient and kind with yourself, and your journey towards the wedding day.
JITTER TO BITTER
Wedding day jitters won’t necessarily turn you bitter, but they can surprise you with a full range of moods consuming your head and heart, affecting your self-esteem. Your sensitivity is heightened during this precious time in your life, and you can find yourself reacting emotionally in ways you may never have expressed before. You are passionate about everything that has to do with your wedding and how you will look. So, as you see, what you are passionate about sometimes creates pressure, because you want everything to be perfect.
Every bride is trying to lose 10 pounds, get in shape, or is generally worrying about how she’ll look on her wedding day. It seems almost impossible to escape the magazines and the models in them; because they are everywhere you look. The bridal industry showcases uber-thin models in gorgeous gowns and even wedding websites’ sections are dedicated to headlines such as “Drop 10 pounds before your wedding!,” “Tone and slim your thighs!,” etc. The fitness industry has even expanded to including “bridal boot camps.” The worst part of the pressure, though, is the one you will put on yourself, because your eyes are flooded with images and articles that you keep seeing on wedding websites and in wedding magazines. You feel you have to be perfect.
Read more in Part 2 and Part 3
This article is brought to you by Aleana’s Bridal Shop located in the town of Ridgewood, NJ – Bergen County.