Once upon a time…and that was all. Most people usually don’t get married planning to divorce soon after, but much research suggests so much of what people do before they wed sadly leads them to the destructive place of divorce.
How to avoid a miserable marriage before it begins? Gee, what an uplifting topic huh?! But it sure is realistic, and can happen to you if you don’t think things through and integrate the right attitude adjustments and mental/emotional shifts into your days leading up to your BIG one.
The timeframe before the wedding can be a crucial turning point, as the whole wedding planning process can be rather stressful. Part of the reason might be that, as a culture, women are often more captivated and infatuated with the wedding than the actual marriage! So this means an excess amount of energy, time, and resources get poured into a wedding, ensuring the best possible outcome for a Wedding Day. Get with the program ladies…a magical day is something we all dream of…but let’s not overdo anything or overcompensate for something we’re not receiving in the relationship itself perhaps? A magical relationship over an over-the-top wedding is much more preferable and soulful.
Instead of revving up your bank account and drowning resources out just to make funds for your elaborate wedding expenses, really think about what is most important and what you can do without. You don’t want money problems resulting from an extravagant wedding to be the reason you‘re relationship is failing…and the resulting woes that come from it all can make a marriage miserable (especially if you’re one of those couples that places such value on finances and/or known to rack up credit card expenses!). This can probably be the most disgraceful way to end a relationship based on these causes. Know who you are, who you are marrying, and find a balance in between to avoid debt…and more importantly, disappointments.
Sweating the small stuff? So he forgot to fix the broken faucet while you were at your bridal gown consultation….Big deal?! It doesn’t mean anything more than what it does at face value…he forgot. Cut him some slack. Step back from your stressed out, overwhelmed state and think of the important things in life…love being # 1. Do you really want to pick a fight over something so trivial…and not to mention, so mundane?
Continue reading …… Part 2 and Part 3
Aleana’s Bridal, Paramus, NJ
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Brides-to-be can have an unavoidable habit of playing the victim…the damsel in distress in-waiting for her dream day to come true. An “All-About-Me” attitude can erupt, as you feel like the world revolves you for the time being. Playing the victim is a control mechanism, and you use it when it suits you best…and may I add, what better timing to use this opportunity of becoming “the bride” to play this role? You may be at a high-sensitivity and emotional peak, so pointing the finger at someone else is easier and makes you feel better about yourself. But never being at fault just because you’re the bride-to-be can be tiresome to a fiancé who necessarily isn’t always to blame either. Fess up to your role in the problems you’re facing, apologize and make the necessary changes when appropriate. It’s difficult for anybody to take responsibility for bad behavior, but once you give up the victim mentality, you’ll find yourself less stressed, angry and resentful…and your soon-to-be husband will be happier, too.
Forgetting the smaller gestures can be a big problem. Those everyday signs of affection are what keep intimacy and romance alive, yet many couples fail to remember to do them, especially in days leading up to wedding as you’re stressed and consumed with the planning. No matter how big or small, spread as much sweetness around as possible.
Sooo….forget sweating the small stuff, and remember to spread the small stuff that matters!
And before you become a heartbroken bride-to-be, make sure not to make any of the mistakes mentioned above. And the biggest one of all? CLOSED COMMUNICATION! Keep the lines of communicating clearly to each other WIDE OPEN…in an honest, non-judgmental space.
You want to communicate as a couple and make sure any unrealistic expectations are kept at bay to a restored balance and healthy dose of dreams, hopes, and aspirations. We’re all human, imperfections and flaws and all that jazz. The key lies in working through the inevitable hardships that you’ll encounter as a couple. It’s in the continual sacrificing, listening and loving, that husbands and wives become soul mates on a more evolved, elevated level of existence.
Oh, of course,…and if he sees you in your wedding dress, your doomed.
Aleana’s Bridal, Paramus, NJ
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This Article brought to you by Aleana’s Bridal store Bergen County NJ.
Read Part 1 first
Just like at your bridal gown appointments, you don’t want to bring a large group with you. Although opinions are great and rules at the hair salon are less strict, space is usually limited and you don’t need anyone’s negative opinions killing your mood. You can easily send pictures of yourself to all of your friends for their feedback. Your Maids Of Honor is enough, but if you need another opinion, bring your mama along. The most important, bring a picture of you in your wedding dress. Believe it or not, the style of your bridal gown plays a vital role in the way your hair should look the wedding day. Is your bridal dress backless or strapless, how high is the neckline, is it a ballgown or trumpet? All of those details will dictate your hair style. Also, if you plan to put anything into your hair (veil, comb, tiara, headband, etc.) bring that along as well. This is very important as it has the potential to change the style completely.
Lastly, don’t forget to bring your voice and speak up! Some hair stylists get a little carried away and may go off in their own direction and change your style completely. If you don’t like it, don’t be afraid to say so. The last thing you want is to be miserable during your wedding day because your hair didn’t come out the way you wanted it to. You will have to look at these photos for the rest of your life. Don’t let your timid attitude be the reason you cringe every time you pass your wedding photo. Never forget that this is all about you and what you want. If you are not happy just book another appointment or change a stylist.
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How to Sabotage your Marriage… …Before it Begins (Part 1)
/in Articles /by Svetlana ZakharinaBy Jaclyn Ianetti
Once upon a time…and that was all. Most people usually don’t get married planning to divorce soon after, but much research suggests so much of what people do before they wed sadly leads them to the destructive place of divorce.
How to avoid a miserable marriage before it begins? Gee, what an uplifting topic huh?! But it sure is realistic, and can happen to you if you don’t think things through and integrate the right attitude adjustments and mental/emotional shifts into your days leading up to your BIG one.
The timeframe before the wedding can be a crucial turning point, as the whole wedding planning process can be rather stressful. Part of the reason might be that, as a culture, women are often more captivated and infatuated with the wedding than the actual marriage! So this means an excess amount of energy, time, and resources get poured into a wedding, ensuring the best possible outcome for a Wedding Day. Get with the program ladies…a magical day is something we all dream of…but let’s not overdo anything or overcompensate for something we’re not receiving in the relationship itself perhaps? A magical relationship over an over-the-top wedding is much more preferable and soulful.
Instead of revving up your bank account and drowning resources out just to make funds for your elaborate wedding expenses, really think about what is most important and what you can do without. You don’t want money problems resulting from an extravagant wedding to be the reason you‘re relationship is failing…and the resulting woes that come from it all can make a marriage miserable (especially if you’re one of those couples that places such value on finances and/or known to rack up credit card expenses!). This can probably be the most disgraceful way to end a relationship based on these causes. Know who you are, who you are marrying, and find a balance in between to avoid debt…and more importantly, disappointments.
Sweating the small stuff? So he forgot to fix the broken faucet while you were at your bridal gown consultation….Big deal?! It doesn’t mean anything more than what it does at face value…he forgot. Cut him some slack. Step back from your stressed out, overwhelmed state and think of the important things in life…love being # 1. Do you really want to pick a fight over something so trivial…and not to mention, so mundane?
Continue reading …… Part 2 and Part 3
Aleana’s Bridal, Paramus, NJ
How to Sabotage your Marriage… …Before it Begins (Part 3)
/in Articles /by Svetlana ZakharinaRead Part 1 and Part 2 first
Brides-to-be can have an unavoidable habit of playing the victim…the damsel in distress in-waiting for her dream day to come true. An “All-About-Me” attitude can erupt, as you feel like the world revolves you for the time being. Playing the victim is a control mechanism, and you use it when it suits you best…and may I add, what better timing to use this opportunity of becoming “the bride” to play this role? You may be at a high-sensitivity and emotional peak, so pointing the finger at someone else is easier and makes you feel better about yourself. But never being at fault just because you’re the bride-to-be can be tiresome to a fiancé who necessarily isn’t always to blame either. Fess up to your role in the problems you’re facing, apologize and make the necessary changes when appropriate. It’s difficult for anybody to take responsibility for bad behavior, but once you give up the victim mentality, you’ll find yourself less stressed, angry and resentful…and your soon-to-be husband will be happier, too.
Forgetting the smaller gestures can be a big problem. Those everyday signs of affection are what keep intimacy and romance alive, yet many couples fail to remember to do them, especially in days leading up to wedding as you’re stressed and consumed with the planning. No matter how big or small, spread as much sweetness around as possible.
Sooo….forget sweating the small stuff, and remember to spread the small stuff that matters!
And before you become a heartbroken bride-to-be, make sure not to make any of the mistakes mentioned above. And the biggest one of all? CLOSED COMMUNICATION! Keep the lines of communicating clearly to each other WIDE OPEN…in an honest, non-judgmental space.
You want to communicate as a couple and make sure any unrealistic expectations are kept at bay to a restored balance and healthy dose of dreams, hopes, and aspirations. We’re all human, imperfections and flaws and all that jazz. The key lies in working through the inevitable hardships that you’ll encounter as a couple. It’s in the continual sacrificing, listening and loving, that husbands and wives become soul mates on a more evolved, elevated level of existence.
Oh, of course,…and if he sees you in your wedding dress, your doomed.
Aleana’s Bridal, Paramus, NJ
How to plan your wedding day hair (Part 2)
/in Expert advice /by Svetlana ZakharinaThis Article brought to you by Aleana’s Bridal store Bergen County NJ.
Read Part 1 first
Just like at your bridal gown appointments, you don’t want to bring a large group with you. Although opinions are great and rules at the hair salon are less strict, space is usually limited and you don’t need anyone’s negative opinions killing your mood. You can easily send pictures of yourself to all of your friends for their feedback. Your Maids Of Honor is enough, but if you need another opinion, bring your mama along. The most important, bring a picture of you in your wedding dress. Believe it or not, the style of your bridal gown plays a vital role in the way your hair should look the wedding day. Is your bridal dress backless or strapless, how high is the neckline, is it a ballgown or trumpet? All of those details will dictate your hair style. Also, if you plan to put anything into your hair (veil, comb, tiara, headband, etc.) bring that along as well. This is very important as it has the potential to change the style completely.
Lastly, don’t forget to bring your voice and speak up! Some hair stylists get a little carried away and may go off in their own direction and change your style completely. If you don’t like it, don’t be afraid to say so. The last thing you want is to be miserable during your wedding day because your hair didn’t come out the way you wanted it to. You will have to look at these photos for the rest of your life. Don’t let your timid attitude be the reason you cringe every time you pass your wedding photo. Never forget that this is all about you and what you want. If you are not happy just book another appointment or change a stylist.